As a parent you would try to make your kid’s life as comfortable and secure as possible. However, the child can develop certain negative characteristics from this. Child psychologists have been studying this problem for a long time and have called it “The Spoiled Child Syndrome” and detailed 10 signs of a spoiled child characterized by certain behavior.
1 You never hear a thank you even though your child is polite with others
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One of the signs that your child is spoiled is when they show good manners with other people but don’t exactly express any gratitude towards their own family members. They don’t say “thank you” because they have started taking whatever their family members do for them for granted.
As per psychologists, this behavior can cause problems with building interpersonal relationships in the future. Therefore, should always teach their kids to be grateful to those who are near and dear to them.
2 Household chores are difficult for the child
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As one of the signs of a spoiled child, teaching a child how to do simple chores like picking up their toys or helping with household chores from a young age will benefit them later in the future. If a child isn’t able to deal with basic household chores either by not wanting to do them or isn’t able, or not even eager to learn how to do them, and the parents just put up with such behavior, then it is a sure sign that the child is spoiled.
If children aren’t brought up with responsibilities then how will they ever cope with adult life? Parents must not indulge them as this would deprive them of essential skills and life hacks which would be useful later in their lives.
3 The child doesn’t get along with peers and seems to think that they are in the wrong
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A spoiled child is not aware of the fact they can just receive things from others without giving them in return. So when they lack empathy and are unable to consider the needs of others when mixing with other kids, they would be disliked and shunned by the others. The child however, cannot explain what exactly went wrong and begins to feel a bit uncomfortable which is why they tend to blame the others and think that they are wrong instead of reflecting upon their own behavior.
So, when peers distance themselves from your child and even a family friend’s kids also makes excuses to skip play dates, it’s probably your child who is at fault.
4 When they do not get what they want they throw a tantrum
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A spoiled child will most certainly throw a tantrum when they do not get what they want. However, toddlers aren’t exactly able to express their emotions and get tired easily. They, then act resentful, cry, wine, and throw a tantrum. This is alright as they just need some help and to be reassured.
A school going child who acts like a baby by choosing the right time to burst into tears, knows how to manipulate their parents very well. So, after such a confrontation of the parent are the ones to feel empty and exhausted while the child gets what they want, then something is definitely wrong.
5 The child does not like competitive activities
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Among signs of a spoiled child, the belief that every child should be raised to believe that they are champions and deserve to be rewarded so as to not get traumatized, has been disapproved by psychologists. Parents need to teach their child to accept defeat with dignity, and that they shouldn’t feel ashamed about it. Spoiled children do not enjoy competition and their parents also encourage this behavior. Due to this, in real life when a child realizes that they aren’t always the best, they prefer to stay out of the competition entirely.
6 The child talks to their parents in the same way they talk to their peers
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Among signs of a spoiled child, it’s often the parent’s fault because they aren’t strict with them to set boundaries and give them proper direction in life. This makes the child feel superior to their parents without fearing authority making them act disrespectful towards their parents as they feel they have the same place in the family hierarchy.
7 The child lacks confidence and has a low self-esteem
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When parents usually do everything for their kid to make them feel special and even tries to remove all the difficult obstacles in life for them, it doesn’t help the child in the least. It deprives the child of opportunities and experiences needed to build their self-confidence and to learn how to overcome difficulties. Spoiled children who do not know how to handle real life situations when they don’t get the intended reaction are left confused and unable to understand what to do to fix the situation. They then begin doubting themselves.
8 The child wants you to pay attention to them all the time
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A child who is spoiled will always have a strong dependence on their family members. Since they are the center of their family’s universe, parents become their ultimate source of happiness. While it is important to give your child attention, the child cannot always demand it and should understand that parents also need time for themselves. A family life which revolves around a kid’s whims and fancies is a big sign that the child is completely spoiled.
9 The child is not able to recognize authority and tends to argue with adults
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Among signs of a spoiled child, being protective about your kid is normal parental behavior. So, when someone accuses their kids of doing something wrong, it is okay to support and protect them but they should discuss the issue later with their child behind closed doors. But, if they start blaming the teachers and other adults without telling their child anything, the child will soon feel like they can get away with anything. They might get the impression that others are mindless fools while they are always in the right. Moreover, if the parents aren’t the authority figures for a spoiled child, there is no chance that the child will respect anyone else.
10 The value of money is not understood by the child
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These days advertisements are made in such a way by modern marketing specialists that it makes children believe they absolutely need something. Parents need to teach their kids how to resist social pressure and also the value of money. They should learn that money doesn’t appear from nowhere and that it must be earned with hard work. Protecting your child from complicated affairs will only ruin the child’s character as they will always believe that their wishes are more important than anything else.
According to studies, it has shown that spoiled children aren’t likely to be financially independent and are susceptible to the risk of ending up in debt when they grow up. Once they get used to having all their wishes granted by their parents and family members without any effort on their own part this thinking leads them to take loans in the future. However, they don’t give much thought to how they are going to pay it off later.