“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.”
Does this seem like the definition of hell to you? That hell would be just one day or one moment of realization that would be equal to a lifetime of regret. That would be one harrowing moment realizing what we could have become but what we have become instead and the time is gone to change it. Thus in order to take a positive step now and change your life all you have to do is to give up these 11 things to be successful.
1 Don’t play small
“You’re playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson
If you want to know how to be successful, if you don’t seize the opportunities that come your way and try to turn your dreams into a reality, you won’t ever realize what you are made of, you’re potential. Voice your ideas and opinions, let the world hear you and learn to dream big. Don’t fear your success and don’t fear failure too, it’s all part of a journey and learning process.
2 Don’t expect perfection
One of the biggest reasons of failure and unreached goals is the expectation of perfection and trying to do things beyond perfection that makes us lag behind in the race. Nobody’s perfect regardless of how much we try. Fear of failure prevents many from initiating action and showcasing your creativity or abilities to the world. This results in so many lost opportunities just because we keep waiting to be perfect.
3 Don’t make excuses
Among giving up things to be successful, remember, you are responsible for your own life, for both your failures and successes. Thus if the possibility of failure lurks in you and frightens you, then be heartened to know that the ability to be successful also lies in you.
4 Don’t adopt a short-term mindset
One of the ways how to be successful is realizing that success can never last for the short-term as there will always be something new in the fray. Long term plans are the key to being and remaining successful. Adopt a long term strategy with a series of daily habits such as exercising not because you need to shape up for an event but because you want to remain healthy permanently.
5 Beware of the fixed mindset
“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.”
― Robert Greene, Mastery
When you adopt a fixed and rigid mindset, then that make you feel your talent is limited and that alone is what makes you successful. That’s wrong. Successful people invest their time ion overall growth, acquiring new knowledge, learning new skills and changing their perception to benefit their lives.
6 Don’t multi-task
Among how to be successful, research says that multitasking may be possible but it doesn’t get the job done because you don’t focus on any of the jobs and thus they are done poorly. Regardless of the task, focus on getting one done or finished first before going on to the other one. Prioritize the tasks and start them accordingly.
7 Stop wanting to be liked
This is a trait with many people. The problem is you can never please everyone. Regardless of how much effort you give, there are some who won’t appreciate it. Start believing in yourself and your abilities and down play criticism wherever it is not warranted. You can’t expect everyone to like you. Instead, improve yourself and work on your abilities and talents. Know that sometimes your biggest haters are your biggest admirers.
8 Say yes to a healthy lifestyle
And please stop that unhealthy lifestyle that you may be leading too.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
— Jim Rohn
To be successful, you need to be in good health and where health is concerned there are only two things you should worry about, your diet and physical activity. Eat healthy an avoid the junk. Make sure you get 45 minutes of exercise at least 5 times a week if not more.
9 Stop thinking you can control everything
You can’t, because there are some things that are just beyond our control and they just cannot be changed. Separate yourself from the things that can’t be changed and focus on what you can change instead. What you can change about that which cannot be changed is your attitude towards and suddenly it will become changeable.
10 Say ‘No’ to toxic people
This is one of the important things to be successful. Just as a garden needs weeding to grow, so should you weed out all the toxic elements in your life weighing you down? There are some who may be more successful and some who may not. Y9ou may hear advice that you should surround yourself only with those who are successful but isn’t that wrong? Sometimes genuine and good people fail because of external factors. Thus you need to surround yourself with good people who would love to see you succeed and not judgmental of you. Weed out all the toxic ones.
11 Don’t be dependent on TV and social media
Among the negative things stopping us from how to be successful, social media has become more of a bane to society that has reduced live interaction among people. Unless you do not use or depend on social media for work, don’t spend too much time in a virtual reality as it only provides an escape from the real world. Focus on the more meaningful aspects of life.