Corporal punishment is not the right ways to raise a child. In many countries, it is considered normal even when the punishment borders on abuse and harassment. And the worst part is it never helps rather does more harm than good! Here is why corporal punishment is not right and better ways to raise a child.

1 It doesn’t work and it makes matters worse

It doesn’t work and it makes matters worse

Parents can have their patience stretched to a limit sometimes but beating or belting won’t serve the purpose as research have proven that violence is just a quick way to get rid of the symptoms of the problem rather than dealing with the real issue itself. Children need to be made to understand the follies of their ways. You need to explain their mistakes and tell them the right way to do things always and follow up on that every day.

2 It’s the pathway to being an abusive parent with an abused kid

it’s the pathway to being an abusive parent with an abused kid

Since violence or corporal punishment doesn’t usually work, parents think their kids are acting stubborn and increase physical punishment. With the continuous increase in force, kids end up mentally abused and damaged growing up holding extreme anger and hatred against their parents who will lose control eventually.

3 Violence raises a future aggressor

Violence raises a future aggressor

Children who are subjected to harsh physical beatings and verbal abuse become bitter and take out their frustration on their younger siblings or weaker kids in the school and become bullies. If the situation is not addressed, they grow up to be an abusive partner and parent as well and this toxic cycle continues. What is more alarming is that abused kids usually risk ending up on the wrong side of the law in their teens.

4 Children can start suffering from depression

Children can start suffering from depression

If a child is repeatedly hurt by their parents, they have a shattered idea of family and parental protection. They lose complete faith and trust and slowly slip into a depression as they find it hard to share their distress with others. Since a child’s life revolves around their parents, they feel completely unwanted and unloved which is a horrid feeling for a child. Do not be surprised as these kids sometime turn suicidal or try to hurt themselves.

5 It literally sickens children

It literally sickens children

Being subjected to corporal punishment, or mental violence or even witnessing happening to their older sibling scars the younger mind so much so that they start losing their heath and sense of wellbeing. They are constantly stressed and worried which takes toll on their appetite, sleep cycle and lead to paranoia or anxiety.

What you can do instead when...

instead when

Among ways to raise a child, when you are at the last strain of your patience- always consider the age of the kid and their behaviours. If its age related and they can’t help it then you need to take a deep breath and approach the issue with a calmer and benevolent attitude.

They keep misbehaving even after your repeated admonishment

They keep misbehaving even after your repeated admonishment

Do not presume that your child instinctively knows what is wrong in their action, therefore you need to be specific when instructing them, like issuing a specific order like “do not kick or pinch other kids or pets as they would be hurt”.

When kids are about to go ballistic

When kids are about to go ballistic

Calm is the word, do not aggravate the situation with your aggressive stance or shrill reprimands and threats as they would get worse. Rather cool down and be authoritative in a superior way which subdues the kids and separate them from the potential disaster zone

Your kid is having a temper tantrum

Your kid is having a temper tantrum

Instead of corporal punishment like slapping children for creating a nuisance, its better you make them sit in a solitary chair at the corner of the room and warn them to keep sitting till the time, they have let out all off their steam. If they still whine, then change the time of the confinement and start again giving them no choice but to calm down.

Your older kids do not want to listen to you

Your older kids do not want to listen to you

If you are confident that their rebellion is not going to have any serious repercussion on a larger run, let them let loose and tell them they would be responsible for the consequence completely and cannot expect any help from you when they screw up. This alone is going to kick in some doubts about their earlier cocky confidence and they might abort their plans by themselves. Thease are the best ways to raise a child.