There have been many instances where a man proposed to the very next girl he met after breaking up from a long relationship. This kind of surprising behavior definitely raises the question of why does a woman whom a man meets after his breakup get the diamond ring almost immediately instead of the woman with whom he spent so many years with. There happens to be various reasons behind such logic why the women men date aren’t the ones they marry.
1 The most important thing is to be with the man at the right time because there is no such thing as “the right woman”
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Someone once posted on social media that men get married not when they meet “the love of their life” but only when they are ready to start a family. Men have admitted on social media that there were relationships which they regretted ending but it still didn’t stop them from getting married to the woman who they found fitting to be their wife.
Among men and women relationships another popular thing which triggers men to get married is: if there is a woman who they’ve wanted to get together with for a long time suddenly gets married, it makes them also want to get married. It’s because the loneliness from losing the woman becomes too unbearable for them and seeing that they have no chance with her, they begin to look at other options available to them.
2 Physical attraction cannot serve as a base for building a family
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According to studies, it has been found that a couple in which the woman is more attractive than the man tends to be happier than most other couples. However, the author of the book- “Why Men Marry Some Woman and Not Others”, John T. Molloy stated that the woman’s appearance should not be vulgar. In a study in which John had 3,500 men participating, he asked them to describe their brides and only 20% of the fiancés used adjectives like gorgeous, attractive, or sexy to describe their appearances. The other 80% talked about their woman’s character traits. These men clearly stated that they didn’t want their women to look over-the-top, but at least appear clean and presentable.
3 Parents and friends’ opinion affect the decision
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A man may be totally independent, yet the woman who he decides to marry can be influenced by his nearest and dearest people. In this regards, friends play a crucial role in the beginning stages of the relationship as their opinions can really accelerate the process of falling in love. Another decisive factor which makes men decide to propose marriage to the woman is the approval of the man’s parents. There have been many cases wherein the girl the son brought home didn’t meet his parents’ expectations.
4 Men are often sure of the fact that women are completely satisfied
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As men and women relationships go, women can sometimes pretend that everything is alright even when they really aren’t interested in getting married. Nevertheless, a man will never know that his girlfriend is expecting some kind of gesture from him if she never raises her opinion about it. This is mainly due to the fact that men can’t seem to read between the lines. Although, men happen to be better at making conclusions, which is why when one of their relationships end because the girl lost her patience and packed up and left, he understood that he needs to be faster with his decisions and propose marriage quicker the next time he gets with a girl.
In the very beginning of a relationship if the couple has a few conflicts they aren’t likely to have a future together as per psychologists’ claim. So, people should never be afraid to express their opinions. Women who remain silent about their wishes rarely ever get the wedding ring. In fact, 73% of future wives admitted that they only got their boyfriends to propose to them on their own after they pressed and insisted on getting married.
5 The chances of getting married are decreased by 50% when a couple live together
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Psychologists have warned women of the risk of living together with their boyfriends before marriage. The reason behind this is because most men usually propose after 22 months of being in a relationship, but the chances of proposing decreases by 20% after this period and 3 years later it decreases further by another 50%. After 7 years the chances become practically zero.
However, people are always of different opinions and women often think that living together is like the first step to a happy married life. On the contrary, men tend to forget about the necessity of registering their relationship and come to think of it as already having started a family.
6 A woman may be convenient for this period of time but not for the future
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Men do wish to get married too, but sometimes they want to accomplish some things first like an apartment or house, a promotion, a stable job, before finally settling down. Even so, during this difficult period in his life full of hardships and struggles, he looks for a woman to support him temporarily.
A woman who meets him half way and who doesn’t require much is a sort of “convenient woman” and isn’t exactly desirable for a life partner. He faces no challenge from her and receives no encouragement for any addiction. When a man achieves success, he then wants to stay in shape and for this he would like to have a woman that will challenge him all the time in turn helping him to achieve even more.
7 A wedding is not the end result of all relationships
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Among men and women relationships, It has been taught to girls from early childhood, that any boy who pays them attention automatically becomes their “one and only”. Relatives often make jokes about this and tease the girl about their future wedding. But, this question tends to get serious over the years, in which case girls grow up with the stereotypical belief that a long relationship usually results in marriage. However, men don’t seem to share the same stereotype which creates a rift in between the sexes.
While some have regretted dating, others did try to hold on to their significant others. But in these situations they have to live with the notion that this person is continuing to be with them only because they feel they need to be and not because they actually want to be with them. In the case of men, when it concerns their wishes and if they’re certain about their choice, they aren’t going to wait too long nor will they try to avoid this conversation. In most cases it’s just that men don’t want get married just yet, but are too afraid to say it because it might lead to a break up.