If you have ever found yourself in a situation where you voluntarily do another person’s work instead of your own just because that person didn’t have the time and you can’t help it but extend a helping hand, then it could be because you were manipulated into it. Just think about it; you opted out of going to the movies just so you could babysit your neighbor’s kid so that they could go out on a date. It’s not often that you realize that you are being tricked into doing what others want. So, here are 7 Manipulative ways in which you could be tricked into doing the work of others:

1 “But all your friends are doing it”

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There actually is a whole science on how to get someone to purchase something, even though he/she doesn’t necessarily need it. Shop assistants are trained to pay special attention to a client’s appearance and social group. In case you are a housewife, working mom or student, they might say something like “everyone like you buys such dresses”. This is even the way Instagram promotions work, by following people who are more or less similar to you and when they promote something you tend to feel the need to get what they have because you feel left out.

2 “Aim lower” method

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Among manipulative ways, a marketing method exists for when the customer refuses or says no. It is simply to ask again, but seemingly making the request softer and smaller. Perhaps even doing something which might make you seem like you are doing the person a favor, could possibly increase the chances of hearing a yes from that person. For example, when a co-worker asks you to lend him $100, there is a slight chance of him hearing a favorable response. However, when he asks for a lesser amount, say $30 and promises to return it within a week’s time, the chances of you lending him the money is much higher.

3 A personal touch

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According to researchers from the Sam Houston State University, it was discovered that study participants are more likely to fill in a survey which included a handwritten message for help. A clinical psychologist named Jeptha Tausig-Edwards says “this speaks to the importance of a personal touch”. Thus, when a seller asks to know your name and what you do for a living or if you’re buying things for yourself or for someone else, they might come off as a caring person, but in reality they are just trying to make the selling process easier by creating a connection with you.

4 Constant approach

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Among manipulative ways, Stanford University Researchers stated that when people turn the same person down several times they start to feel uncomfortable. So, when a person requests you for something and you decline that request, if that same person approaches again with a different request, you might just agree. Researchers explain that you accept the second time because you feel guilty for declining and letting them down the first time.

5 Promising profits

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German researchers have concluded that if people were to personally profit from something then they would likely agree to it. People who pursue their own selfish goals usually use this trick. Try to distinguish the sincere requests of friends or the really profitable offers from the phony ones by people who are just trying to trick you.

6 You can always say “No”

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As one of the manipulative ways, giving someone the choice to refuse and say no to remind them that they aren’t a hostage is like giving them definite power and is quite a well-known trick. Psychologists explain that hearing statements like “You don’t have to”, or “This looks great on you, but it’s up to you to decide” is a technique which keeps you reminded about your freedom and which makes you feel comfortable and doubles the chances of you agreeing and saying yes .

7 The 3 “Yes” trick

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To get a person to say yes all you have to do is ask at least 2 small questions as one of the manipulative ways which will get you a favorable answer and then ask the person for a favor. As per psychologists, we tend to stick to stick to our behavior and values thereby being driven to remain committed to things and positively answering to more and more requests. So, if you do happen to say yes and agree to many things, then it is likely that they have got you on the book.