What makes a person charming? Obviously it is one’s personality obviously. Jeff Haden who is a popular author regularly featured on LinkedIn and who has authored over 30 business books has outlines how people can get others to like them and to create an air of positivity around themselves and appear more attractive to others through these nine characteristics.

They’re not afraid to lose

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Among psychological tricks, those who are charming don’t always win at everything and instead, they try to give without expecting anything in return. They admit their mistakes easily as well as their weaknesses, and failures and not everyone can do this. Such people also find it easy to ask for help and say things like “I can’t do this, please teach me.” This is because they know that people appreciate honesty.

They show they’re sincerely glad to meet you

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Eye contact is one among psychological tricks and important in conversation and those with charisma will smile when you smile or frown when you do. They won’t repeat everything that they hear and will keep focused on what you have to say to them and pay attention to you carefully listening to your words and feeling your emotions. This type of feedback helps you to find something common with people and gain the trust of those in front of you.

They look for mutual understanding

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Most people try their best to find something contradictory just to disagree and this leads to dispute instead of making conversation. But charismatic people try and locate that common ground with everyone and their interlocutors which helps in striking up good conversation and achieve positive emotions.

They use the power of touching

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Touch is a very important and powerful tool that helps people connect with each other better emotionally. In a research scientists tried to touch their interlocutors and express emotions without using words. In 50-83% of the cases, the expressions were correct. This means that if you want to congratulate someone just doesn’t say it but think how to do it better such as a pat on the shoulder that will prove your words are more authentic and will gain the trust of the other person.

They’re good at using facial expressions and gestures

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Among psychological tricks, people who are likeable can express their emotions accurately and can even transform a boring story into an enthralling conversation. Through gesticulation and making appropriate faces, they can express and convey the mood of their story and this makes it more interesting to the people listening to them and kindle more interest.

They’re not afraid to look silly

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Charismatic people aren’t afraid to go skating even if they fall or look awkward and people respect them more for this because of the humility and simplicity. When you demonstrate your weakness, you are not afraid to look silly then people also will not laugh at you simply because they too understand that everything is fine.

They’re good at asking questions

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Charismatic people make it easy for you to talk about yourself and they will not even hesitate to ask questions and talk about themselves too. Such people are genuine and will want to always know about your thoughts and this is what makes them trustworthy. When you ask someone to talk about themselves and also speak similar things about yourself, then the common factor can truly make interesting conversation.

They always remember names

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Charismatic people always remember what you tell them accurately as well as other people’s names. When someone remembers your names and the little things you tell them even after knowing each other a short while can make them appear very attractive because it also makes you important in the conversation. Call people by their names and remember their friends, and pets. Such people will always think positive of you.

They listen more and talk less

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One of the best psychological tricks and characteristics of an attractive person is that they listen attentively to you which many people don’t do. Most people don’t listen and instead they only want to speak of themselves and share their own news. It is always a good feeling when you tell a story and see that everyone is paying attention to you and even emotionally reacting to your word. Charming people also listen and love to do so rather than always talking. This helps people learn more interesting things about others to find a common factor.